Barbara, a woman with dementia in a care home, struggles to work out what is going on. Her thoughts are anxious. She longs for her mother. She has physical sensations affecting her breathing. She feels shame and guilt. Alone, she wonders where she is. Leaping to her feet she calls out for someone, anyone to come along.
Barbara is quietly singing an old song to herself while rearranging soft toys on a blanket in front of her. We know later, from her daughter, that this is the sort of thing she did to comfort her children when they were little. She looks unbearably sad. And she says, “Departed. Never to return.”
Barbara is trying to remember who has a birthday coming up. Her thoughts are disjointed, but there are themes about viruses, hospitals, and sickness. She knows something is wrong and feels it might be herself that is wrong. She thinks someone was crying and naked in her room, and we wonder if she saw herself, or imagined someone, or if another resident had truly wandered in.
Barbara struggles to remember Mikey’s name. Her frustration is real. She’s fond of the care worker “the wee girl”. At last she finds his name and she screams it out, and turns to bang on the windows, begging to be let out. She is clearly getting worse. A voice over comes from Mikey, her grandson. No matter how angry his words become, she does not move. In the end she fades away and disappears. And her grandson says goodbye to her.
The care home resident Barbara is played by the actress Barbara Rafferty, who has appeared in countless theatre productions, and films, as well as soaps such as Rab C Nesbitt, Hamish Macbeth, and River City. Barbara has already supported the Dementia Services Development Trust by appearing in the film We Need to Talk about Dementia.
Barbara was really able to portray a woman in this situation. I can see elements of my own experience of my mother’s Lewy Body Dementia in how she moves and speaks in this piece.
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Care homes and nursing home reviews which can help you decide whether a particular care home is right for you or the person you care for
Scottish Care Latest news from the voice of the independent care sector is the news feed of the organisation that campaigns for the care sector in Scotland
Coronavirus(COVID -19): adult care homes visiting guidance is the guidance for visiting that was right at the time of making the film, and we will update it as we can
Care England; representing independent care providers in England is the news feed of the organisation that campaigns for the care sector in England
Dementia the One Stop Guide is a book about dementia. Up to 90% of care home residents have some form of dementia
Growing number of care homes using mobile visitor pods to reunite residents and families is a story about how care homes worked to make visiting possible
More than 130 discharged from royal Cornwall Hospital to care homes without coronavirus test Covid-19 gives one example of the rush to empty care homes